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Why do people not state what they want?

28/6/2021

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I often come across people who... despite their obvious desire to be developing their career in some way or changing their career - will simply not state what it is they want. There is something holding them back. 

This is a very interesting dynamic and when I ask why they wont say what they want or are finding fault with every options that emerges from our conversations.....some will say "but that is why I have got in touch".

However, it is not my job to tell you what you want ( I say) - it is my job to help you do things like: 
explore your options 
find out why the current career has not met your expectations
uncover what will truly motivate you - your career dream or a new passion or focus
feel more empowered to state what it is you want

but not to tell you what you want.

I think there is a misconception that career guidance is about providing  a shortlist of options from which you merely have to pick. This is the "career shelf" system so often used in schools ( my school had a careers library room with books on a shelf). Anyway - after 30 years plus of talking to people about their careers - this is simply not my style - because.... it doesn't work. In fact it often leads to disappointment, dead ends, plateaus or frank mismatch.

There is a place for provisional shortlisting of sorts - but I believe this has to be a starting point for discussion and further explorations. A career needs to fit someone and it needs to be researched, to evolve and grow in order to fit and so merely picking off a shelf is not a helpful start.

Some people however are very very uncomfortable stating what it is they want. And I know they have good reasons. The reasons are potentially multiple and it is complex so I am writing a short course on this . It afflicts so many and understanding why a person is unable to say will help a them move from "but i don't know what I want" to " I'd love to do x y x ..... I now know how to take that forwards, what I have to offer it and how it matches my needs. Far from picking an option from a list or.. a shelf.
2 Comments
Newspaper Jobs Today link
18/8/2022 02:42:28 am

Thanks for share this info..

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Orla McDonnell link
5/9/2022 03:22:04 am

Hi, i liked this article. Have you written the course on it yet?

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